Brightest Diamond (Selfless Love) in the array of Dark Mines (The World)

Hi People!

Hope everyone is doing good :)..... You guys may have thought that this guy is like Sooraj Barjatya who posts once in 6 months,year or whatever. Well, yes, to an extent, as when my Heart says you have to write on this and make people aware of the things & thoughts, then only I came here. Because "Heart" always do the right things in Life.

Well, there is a lot to share, so lets back to the Topic, and its not easy to anticipate from the Title I provided, that what I would want to communicate.

So, here it goes....We know that Life is a continuous learning & an experience, which teaches you many lessons of value.

So, at point or other you will learn a lesson that will make you cautious in future to not do the same again. 

Here, I want to discuss today about "Love"and not only this but "Sincere Love"!!!

First let me clear the difference between two- Love is a beautiful feeling and can be defined in my terms as something when you know he/she is not "perfect" and it doesn't matter.

It prevails and exist in the whole world. I've seen so many couples who love each other & like spending time with each other. Many moved successfully , while a lot went through bad phases in terms of "Breakups" - today's trend ;). There are few close ones of mine who went from this phase and everyone knew how bad it is. The question arises Why if so much love was there... relationship was of say 7 years etc.??

There are 100 and variable reasons for each such "lovely" relationship but basic root cause was same - Lot of Demands, expectations, ambitions, dominance with less of understanding and care. People now-a-days set through very high expectations for the partner. For ex. a young guy will go to flower shop to pick a bouquet early morning & use to wait for hours beneath her apartment for when she woke up & he will give it to her...just to make her feel special. That's wonderful... Love is that feeling when you want to do all those sort of things which will make your companion happy - that's important. 

But, at the same time if you are doing it everytime, then a wrong message has been conveyed and that of very high and un-realistic expectations. Then, even if you willn't get time to do all these beautiful things, then your partner starts complaining and so on. So, first set the rule as "No Complaints which are not genuine, and,  No demands". 

That's love of today. But now I come to my central and core point and that is "Sincere Love" - that's my terminology. It simply means "Selfless Love" that truly depends on 3 basic pillars - "Feelings", "Emotions" and "Sacrifice". This is what in the life of 27 years, am hardly able to find in today's generation.

This you often can see in your parents, grandparents... a love which is selfless, which understands every "gesture" of the partner, which is not at all dominant, which understands the "needs through Silence" as well. That's I call a beautiful love, which is rare in todays busy and fast world.

This is the type of love which apart from husband and wife can be found in a daughter - father, father - son, mother - son, brother - sister, but hard and tough in a girlfriend - boyfriend relationship. Because a father do all of the things, provide guidance, take care of your needs even when you are not with him... that's "selflessness". When that state of love one achieves, you can really feel the beauty of it and ecstasy (extreme happiness) embedded in it. 

A beautiful example i want to recite here  - one day I was watching one award show and a segment of 100 years of Indian cinema came and all the living legends of film fraternity were present there from Dilip sahab to hema malini, saira banu, jaya bhaduri, Manoj kumar, Rajesh khanna to name a few.

I closely observed how beautifully Saira Banu took care of & understood each and every gesture of Dilip kumar and been with him for every moment since it's really tough for him to do movements and speak because of age factor. I believe - If one loves you in true sense then he/she need to take care of everything related to you, be it your people,  friends, pets, liking, disliking etc.

That's the Beauty of True Love - "Sincere Love" & I respect it because it's hard to find it in today's glittering & flamboyant world with Shrewd people around. And I believe I make it clear now to how the content resemble to the title?

It simply said that Selfless love is like a brightest "diamond" in this dark black Mine like world. And Believe me, these traits of Selfless love came & remain in you if you don't forget your middle-class roots, from where you came; no matter how big you became.

Because "LOVE" MAY END BUT "SELFLESS LOVE" CAN NEVER BE!!! 

Bollywood Cinema: "Depth" in the movies is gone!!!

Hi Frendz!

After a long time, almost a year, want to share some views of mine.
Fortunately there were many but unfortunately i was not able to take some time out.

So, here I want to discuss about the Indian Cinema... the Bollywood cinema that has come a long way. From Jahanara to Ra-one; it's completely changed with the radical shift in the surroundings, economy, society, taste, that overall led to change in the mindset of people.

I don't feel the "deepness" and "genuinity" in today's movies.Its just the no. game now a days. For eg. Bodyguard, Ra-one, or take any other movies, the success of the film or they earned the "blockbuster" status merely on the basis of gross collection of a week; no matter what's the story or what's the act.

People started making films by taking the view that what clicks the audience and the best part is that - the ingredients to connect with masses are "gaalis", nudity, exotic locations, high technology, item numbers..... and it really works surprisingly!!

Aakhirkar, "jo dikhta hai vo bikta hai" - marketing funda, that seems to be true.

Though, there were many Directors who want to make films like old classics, but since today's genX srry Gen Y, find it not happening... they stopped making such films.

Eg. is Suraj barjatya; his movies were different and tightly knitted family oriented films and that's why they were all big hits (becoz now a days people didn't get chance to see it in real life).

When I go back to old era, I found a lot of "depth" in the movies in terms of act, script, music, lyrics, everything.

People had stopped making such gud content movies and moved to money grosser flicks were there is less act, more technology.... Less stress on script,more on ambience, less on playback singing, more on instruments, which makes in a nutshell.... a film with so much investment but as a whole its a "hollow stuff".

Latest example is "Desi Boyz" - waste of money.

The difference is also very clear - Earlier people used to make films to inspire people, build d society, develop d humanity nd tell d new gen about our rich culture nd today its all no. Game, who is no 1, how much profit, highest grosser film, one week gross collection, that's it...

And on the top of it because now a days people are also not connected, in todays hectic life, they just want to chill and relax for 2:30 hr movie without taking "heavy gyaan" which is justified as well!

But aaj bhi I used to miss the era of the greatest bollywood actors like Rajendra Kumar, Dev Anand, Shammi Kapoor, Sunil dutt, Raj Kumar, Shashi Kapoor, Raj Kapoor, Om prakash, Dileep Kumar and many others, but as one of my frend said ...Those legends, times and movies with similar scripts would never come back but those legendary acts would remain in our hearts forever.

And STILL I'VE A BETTER CONNECT WITH ALL THOSE FILMS BECAUSE I LEARNED VALUES FROM THEM IN REAL LIFE!!!

Does Struggle = Sadness ??

Struggle = Sadness ??

Are struggle or sadness the different sides of a coin? What do you guys think?
Because the people in the world in which we are living, quite often interchange the meanings & thus both words overlap each other in situations.

Yes they are different & only today when I watched a video, I got to know this.
Sadness or sad time is something whose price we can n't fulfill, like an accident happened, or a sudden death, something like this but the struggle is something which is in your hand, which you or others can fulfill.

The harder u hit, the farther the balls go, that's the simple rule.
So never miss to put the efforts, even wen the situation is not according to you.

This is what I learnt after watching a video showcasing the hard journey of a farmer whose son got selected as an IAS officer.

When a father who is not capable of giving his son proper amenities to go ahead in life & achieve what he/she want to achieve, but still took the burden on his shoulder & try to give all that what is needed to achieve that goal & after that when his son/daughter achieved that goal... no one can understand that precious feeling that the person himself who is the father can.
That is his reward, A reward for everyone in his family; A reward for father who gave up everything what is in his hands & a reward for his son as he achieve what he wants to & what his father want to see.
On one hand are the people who loves to buy expensive clothes every weekend, lavish lifestyles, want to go to pubs/clubs every fortnight,engaged in girls; on the other hand there are people who are simple & because of the hard effort from his family side, didn't loose their focus & commitment & hence achieves something extraordinary.

I'm just wishing myself to have same type of zeal & can nurture such type of commitment power inside me so as to achieve what I want to achieve.

 

SUCCESS TO YOU...!!

Hey guys! Been a long time to share something with you. Actually I was not getting any good topic to write but today I’ve something to share with you.

I want to know

what success to you is?

Please express it in the comment section of the blog so that I get to know the views of people with whom I’m sharing this article.
Anyways, as far as I believe different people have different definition of success.
For one it is achieving the set target, or accomplishing a particular or preset goal, for others achieving a status symbol is success for him/her.

You might get around 1.3 trillion definition or more than that about success in India itself, indicating the true knowledge base of world’s largest democratic society.
Well, according to me success is more a broaden term & it has many facets. Just shown a glimpse of it in the above paragraph. But, mind it, these are just the facets of it, not as a whole. These small - small facets together make the true definition of success. Or better is to say meaning of success.

I’ll tell you the actual meaning of success to myself in the end of this article, may be because I want my article to look good! 
Anyways success is interlinked with satisfaction as well. People want to achieve successful career, but success is not limited to this, it is something that could soothe your soul & will take you to the self-actualization state.
So, without making the article heavy & lengthy, I just tell what it means to me:
For me, it is
“Something where your individual growth is connected to the society & thus, for me it is apart from achieving the top position in the field in which you are currently working, something such that with your individual growth, society will also grows. That is the real success” !!

YUG: a Change of an era – good or bad?

We all know that a YUG means a decade.
Today, in era of globalization, a new age of mankind is emerging, calling the end of the old era, which was a little bit weak, poor, techno-free, having limited accessibility, yet was much simpler, relaxing, & most importantly having a proper place of human sentiments.

A era which has seen people way back, starting from Indian Politics & Freedom fighters i.e.. Mahatma Gandhi, Subhash Chandra bose, Chandra Shekhar Azaad, Bhagat Singh to Classical Actors like Prithvi Raj Kapoor, Dev Anand, Gurudutt, Madhubala, Rajendra Kumar, Dharmendra, Mala Sinha to rural farmers & people of India.
I call it the Golden era

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Because, the life was much simple, easy & beautiful. People were not having Gadgets, Internet, & other technology in their kit to have access to the whole world. No doubt these things are made in order to make our life simpler, better & convenient, but yet if you analyze the whole thing, life became more complex, fast & people are not having the time for their families.
But the most important change comes in Human mindset. From a sensitive kind & simple heart it became shrewd, selfish & demandable heart.

Way back, much earlier than what I have mentioned above, feel very proud to say that we were the first to have the very sacred Guru- Shishya parampara

, where a Guru was someone whose value was considered more than the God. That’s why you might heard of the phrase:

Guru Gobind dono khade, kage lagoon paanv,
Balihaari guru aapki gobind diyo sahaya

Which says that earlier, people used to put Guru in place of God. That was true because at that time Guru’s were not be having their own motive to teach them, they were doing it because it makes them feel happy or because it was there karma to spread the knowledge among masses. But now neither you will find that sort of Guru’s nor the Shishya’s. [like one ideal example of Eklavya & his guru Dronacharya]

Where earlier people want to change India for the betterment of the society & thus wants freedom & civilians were ready for dying for the nation, where people respect the sentiments of other, today, everyone thinks about themselves. People became more career- oriented & so called practical in their life. Here the lines that are coming to my mind are:

Yug badla badla Hindustan,
Kal tak desh pe marta tha jo,
Pyaar desh se karta tha jo,
Apne liye hi jeene laga kyun
Aaj ke yug ka har insaan…
Yug badla badla Hindustan

But, they don’t know, the real fun, happiness & sukoon lies in the old world, which however not going to come back again. That was passé, all credit goes to basic principle of time, which says that time once gone, never comes back, & therefore is precious.

I still used to watch old hindi films, which gave me immense pleasure & soothe my nerves. All I used to think is people at that time were so simple, beautiful & genuine that you will not going to find now very frequently today. Therefore, we need to capture every single moment if possible, of our life, because what is new for you today will be the thing of past in future. So live your life to the fullest & make it memorable. Because “Old is still Gold”.

THE ART OF BEING “HAPPY”

I came across the thought of writing on this topic rather than much usual topics of Business because of one short incident of which I was an important part of.
But before sharing that incident with you, let me ask one question:
HOW WILL YOU MAKE & KEEP YOURSELF HAPPY IN TODAY’S HECTIC, TECHNOSAVVY & SHOWY LIFESTYLE?OR Let me put it this way:
What actually happiness is for you??
With the number of diverse & different people that our country has, the answers to these questions also will be too different & unique.
I do not know what others think, but for me, it has a simple relationship with the way you live i.e..
“More simple you live, more happy you will be”.
That absolutely not means that people who have enormous amount of money & lavish lifestyle are not happy. Like in Business, here also the concepts of Long term happiness & Short term happiness exist.

Drinks, partying with friends, having stylish cell phones or having latest gadgets are all the things & means to be happy but they are of Short term. On the other hand, happiness that you get via spending beautiful moments with family, helping needy people, & living a life smoothly (without having a guilt inside you of doing something which you shouldn’t do), is the real happiness (Long term).

I believe the moment of true happiness can only be one that exist for long term –
When you help either directly or indirectly the "needy" people.
I surely can say that you will get the opportunity to practice it in bulk in the country like India. It will give you that much of satisfaction that you surely cann’t get via all other things.

Now coming back to the incident that I was earlier talking of:
Actually, a week ago I came back to my hometown via Delhi, where I had a brief halt at ISBT. A person, seems to be an old one, came towards me & started talking to me informally. Later on, he said that he want some money to purchase a bus ticket to go to Chandigarh because someone had stolen his purse & he need to go urgently as he had a court “peshi” [court’s summon to be present there]. Later on, via having a talk more, he said he had his relatives in Panchkula, & at this time no other option is available for him. He also has some problem in his legs & could not be able to walk properly.
I once thought whether the case is a genuine one? So I think not to give money but to go with him & purchase the ticket to Chandigarh & give it to him. I had given it to him & not the money & later saw from behind a sense of relief on his face after getting the ticket.

I felt so obliged that I got a wonderful opportunity to help that person, thanks to God.
I felt so satisfied & that is the real happiness for me.